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The Generational Curse

visiting the iniquity of the fathers upon the children even unto the third and fourth generation of them-author unknown

This quote can be found in a very ancient book, but these words are still true. The word fathers can be used interchangeably with mothers. So how did these ancient people get it and we don’t? I mean with all of our technology and civilization, we have forgotten some simple truths.

Generational curses are alive and well all around us. Most recently, we have seen an example of generational curses on every news channel or talk show, all reporting on the Chris Brown and Riannah saga. On one of Oprah’s recent shows, we heard former abusers state that they had been abused themselves or witnessed abuse in their households as a child.

Research shows that individuals (men or women) who were sexually abused by family members go on abuse their children. Research also shows that children brought up in poverty, are more likely to stay in poverty. There are ways to break the circle of poverty in families. Sometimes it takes just one individual to turn things around. Here are three people, who broke the generational curse in their families:

Roland Fryer -mother, father, aunts and uncles all did drugs or sold drugs. Now he is the youngest professor to get tenure at Harvard and he is a well respected economist.

Harriet Tubman- Famous for her care of the sick and her role in the civil rights movement. She was born into slavery and died a free woman.

Tyler Perry- Now on the Holly wood A-list, he was born and raise in poverty and a household touched by abuse.

Add names to this list. Remember the person has to have overcome childhood poverty, abuse or negativity due to their family of origin. If you have had to overcome some of these things. Feel free to share.
Ladies we are informed, well educated and strong. It is your responsibility to choose the right partner, someone who is determined to live his or her life in a peaceful and successful way. Be careful not to start the generational curse or continue the curse into the next generation of your family. Make sure your significant other has the following qualities (in no particular order):

1. He is still actively involved in positive family communication
2. He has a dream and vision for success that matches your own
3. He is kind and considerate
4. He is up to date on current affaires
5. He is healthy or making new healthy choices
6. His spiritual beliefs matches yours

Remember only you will be responsible for what happens in the long run.

Real Woman: Natasha Richardson

The world of acting has lost a real star; Natasha Richardson will be missed by all. Over the years, I have enjoyed Richardson’s movies. Of course, my personal favorite was the parent Trap.

Natasha Richardson was a good actress, but she was also a wife and a mother. She is a symbol of hope. Hope that being famous does not mean that a woman has to give up her dreams of a successful marriage. She has proven that it is possible for a woman to pursue her dreams and career, while still exploring the joys of being a wife and the adventures of being a mother.

From all accounts, Richardson scheduled her filming and career around her family. She was not a selfish woman. She made the decision to get married and have children and she took her responsibilities seriously. It is so refreshing to know that a woman can achieve all of her dreams in the chaotic world of Hollywood.

To the family and friends of Natasha Richardson:

I pray that you will always have wonderful memories of the wife, daughter, mother and friend that you have lost. I hope that you always stand by her husband and sons, because they will need you more now than ever. Stand by them not just today, but tomorrow, a week from now, and years from now.

To Liam Neeson and His sons:
Richardson, Natasha & Neeson, Liam
Thank you for sharing your wife and mother with us. She had a true talent and she was a wonderful example of a strong, selfless woman. As a fan fans I will miss looking forward to her next movie. I will also keep you in my prayers. I hope you will always she wonder memories to get you through the tough times.

A Holy Temple: Say No to Obesity

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1Corinthians 6:19
Or don’t you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit….

Ladies we need to get it together. Research shows that more women are dying of heart disease than breast cancer or cervical cancer. I have never thought of a woman having a heart attack. When I think about heart attacks, the imagine of a male comes to mind. We have to start taking care of ourselves not only for ourselves, but also for our families.

Prevention:
• Exercise
• Eating healthy
• Laugh a lot
• Visit friends and family
• Do not drink alcohol (this is a big one)

Here are some of the risk factors that increase with an increase in weight.
• Coronary heart disease
• Type 2 diabetes
• Cancers (endometrial, breast, and colon)
• Hypertension (high blood pressure)
• Dyslipidemia (for example, high total cholesterol or high levels of triglycerides)
• Stroke
• Liver and Gallbladder disease
• Sleep apnea and respiratory problems
• Osteoarthritis (a degeneration of cartilage and its underlying bone within a joint)
• Gynecological problems (abnormal menses, infertility)

All of the information I have gathered comes from the CDC.

(Stay tunes for easy ways to exercise)

Ruth: Through the eyes a 21st century girl

Coming soon…

Sex free Weekend

A Night Out on the Town

Ladies a night out on the town can be a very fun and exciting. You get all of your girls together and you decided were to go. It can be especially rewarding after a long week of work, work, work.
Remember, for women there are several reasons why we go out. For virgins the motives are pretty simple. We go out to have fun, socialize and meet new people. We do not go out to meet men (if it happens that is a wonderful additive to the evening). Our main purpose for painting the town is to unwind and release pent up energy.

One thing we should all remember ladies is safety first. You go with me, you leave with me. It is a small rule I have for all of my friends. I am not going to let you leave the club or concert or anywhere for that matter with a man you just met. Wait for day light, he will either still be there or gone. Either way it is in your best interest.

Some ways to have fun, virgin or just not ready for sex tonight:

1. Wear something that flatters your figure, but dose not say cheap. Looking cheap brings unwanted negative attention.

2. Choose a club or concert that has a good reputation for entertainment. There is nothing worse than going to a club or concert and being bored out of your mind.

3. Do remember that there are other ways to entertain yourself, like going to a jazz bar, or local restaurant with live local entertainment.

4. Stay with the group (you can dance with guys but come back to the group afterwards).

5. Group dances are always fun. I have met the best of characters when my group of friend and I were all on the dance floor.

6. Do not drink if you don’t know how to hold your liquor. It looks tacky and you become a burden to your friends.

7. Share the drinks tab, money is tight so if everyone pitches in there will be fun to go around.

8. Do not accept a drink from a guy. No, they are not all trying to poison you or looking for payment in return. The thing is, you are out to have fun, you don’t want a guy standing there hanging around for the rest of the evening. Remember, you are not leaving with him at the end of the evening. Plus, you never know, he might want something in return.

9. At the end of the evening, make sure you gather all of your crew (yes even the tipsy once leaning on an eligible bachelor) and head home. I hope that you all had a fun, night and you are good for another two months or so.

See, virgins can have just as much fun as the average girl. We just don’t have the mission of meeting or leaving with a man.

Read the fine print

Ladies as you head out for the night. As you apply your make-up, and put on your skinny jean or sexy dress. I want to leave you with one statement. When you are done with your quest of perfection and you are staring at your face in the mirror, reflect on the statement below.

Ps: A strong woman is never caught unawares.

Mental Signature Needed

For all the ladies who are sexually active. Don’t leave home without mentally signing this statement. Take all precautions necessary to stay healthy and worry free.

I understand that every time I engage in sexual activity I am at risk of becoming pregnant and or contracting a sexually transmitted disease. Sign here:_________________________________

Gentlemen, as you shave and get all of the stray hairs under control (of course a man with a beard is sexy too); as you press your shirt and put on those boxers, or briefs, and pants. I want you to take a moment and reflect on the statement below.

PS: Stay healthy and clean. No woman likes a dirty boy!

Mental Signature Needed

I understand that every time I engage in sexual activity I am at risk of becoming a parent and or contracting a sexually transmitted disease. Sign here:__________________________________________