There is no such thing as an accidental pregnancy

I am not sure why this happens but there are several women out there who are babymamas and think they had an accidental pregnancy. I say that there is no such thing.

Every woman ages 12 and up knows how babies are made. If you don’t find out through your friends, then you learn it in science class at school. Every time you have sexual intercourse there is a possibility that you will get pregnant. Even if you are using birth control, we all know that birth control is not 100% effective. It says it right on the packet. READ IT!!!

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Courting Part 1

Virgin Monologues: Court Me
Courting has been around for all time and some people have embraced, while others have shunned it. Practicing Christians embrace courting as a way to develop a relationship with the opposite sex and remain with in the guidelines set by God. in the Bible God has set some specific guidelines for single and married people.
1 Corinthians 7:8-9
Now I say to those who aren’t married and widows-it is better to stay unmarried, just as I am. But if they can not control themselves they should go ahead and marry. It is better to marry than to bur with lust.

Paul was writing to the church and people in Corinth, but this applies to us today. Sex before marriage is a sin in Gods eyes and therefore, courting makes it easier to live within the will of God. The main goal of courting is to see if your partner is the right one for you to marry. People who court do not date.

I feel that anybody, Christian or not can decided to court. Courting is a way of forming a relationship that can heal old wounds or keep your heart from being shredded to pieces. The number one rule of courting is no sex. No sex of any kind.

However, courting is more than not having a sexual relationship with a person. It is deeper than that. It is seeing the person for who they truly are, without the cloudiness and emotions that come along with a sexually involved relationship. When you court someone, you become their friend and they become yours. If the person is compatible with you, then you create a deep bond, which will last a lifetime.

Six ways to ensure your courting relationship is successful:

1 Make sure that courting is right for you. You have to believe in it, have self control and be disciplined.
2 Tell your intended partner about your goals up front. For example, explain to them your intentions of courting.
3 Chose to visit with each other in open setting or by doing character building activities.
4 Dress modestly, to avoid giving off the wrong message. You can wear clothes that are flattering to your figure without it saying Motel 6.
5 Get to know each others families, and friends that will tell you a lot about your partner.
6 Always be fully aware of your partners faith based beliefs and how those beliefs play out in their lives.
Courting is fun and although it is not emotion free, you can end a courting relationship on mutual agreement, because both you and your partner will be fully aware of your feelings or lack there of towards each other. Yes, your heart will ache a little, but it will not break in several tiny pieces.

Sex free Weekend

A Night Out on the Town

Ladies a night out on the town can be a very fun and exciting. You get all of your girls together and you decided were to go. It can be especially rewarding after a long week of work, work, work.
Remember, for women there are several reasons why we go out. For virgins the motives are pretty simple. We go out to have fun, socialize and meet new people. We do not go out to meet men (if it happens that is a wonderful additive to the evening). Our main purpose for painting the town is to unwind and release pent up energy.

One thing we should all remember ladies is safety first. You go with me, you leave with me. It is a small rule I have for all of my friends. I am not going to let you leave the club or concert or anywhere for that matter with a man you just met. Wait for day light, he will either still be there or gone. Either way it is in your best interest.

Some ways to have fun, virgin or just not ready for sex tonight:

1. Wear something that flatters your figure, but dose not say cheap. Looking cheap brings unwanted negative attention.

2. Choose a club or concert that has a good reputation for entertainment. There is nothing worse than going to a club or concert and being bored out of your mind.

3. Do remember that there are other ways to entertain yourself, like going to a jazz bar, or local restaurant with live local entertainment.

4. Stay with the group (you can dance with guys but come back to the group afterwards).

5. Group dances are always fun. I have met the best of characters when my group of friend and I were all on the dance floor.

6. Do not drink if you don’t know how to hold your liquor. It looks tacky and you become a burden to your friends.

7. Share the drinks tab, money is tight so if everyone pitches in there will be fun to go around.

8. Do not accept a drink from a guy. No, they are not all trying to poison you or looking for payment in return. The thing is, you are out to have fun, you don’t want a guy standing there hanging around for the rest of the evening. Remember, you are not leaving with him at the end of the evening. Plus, you never know, he might want something in return.

9. At the end of the evening, make sure you gather all of your crew (yes even the tipsy once leaning on an eligible bachelor) and head home. I hope that you all had a fun, night and you are good for another two months or so.

See, virgins can have just as much fun as the average girl. We just don’t have the mission of meeting or leaving with a man.

The New Look of a Virgin

The New Look of a Virgin

Today’s virgin is a strong woman. She is goal driven, meticulous, seeks justice for all, and is trustworthy. She is also pure in heart, spirit mind and soul. It is her job and duty to be the exacter of social justice and lead by example. You can believe that a man will never bring her down, her goals in life are to be the best daughter, sister, employer, employee, student, co-worker and human that she can every be.

However, most of all today’s virgin is a woman on an ultimate mission, a mission that so many other powerful women that have come before her have undertaken. Nothing and absolutely nothing can deter her from this mission. There are two things. Only two things to remember about this woman. She will do anything and I mean any thing to protect the dignity and the sovereignty of her mission. What is this mission you ask? Well let me tell you.

Her mission is to be the best mother and lover she can be. This woman will go to many lengths to see that this happens. There is nothing in the world that she holds more sacred than her man, marriage and her children. Oh yes she is a professional, and she will work, but her children and husband will always come first.


Here are some ways to make sure you stay a virgin:

1. Make up your mind not to have sex before you go out with the girls.

2. If a man wants to have a long-term relationship with you, be honest and tell him up front. If you want it, put a ring on it.

3. Let ever man that you are open to talk and have fun, but not open for sex (that way they don’t have any expectations)

4. Always try and go out with your man, don’t stay indoors and in intimate settings

5. After a wonderful date, leave him at the door, no nightcaps.

6. It is all in the body language; say you are sexy but not wanting.

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And you wonder why?

There was an old woman

Who lived in a shoe

She has so many children

She didn’t know what to do

She gave then some broth

Without any bread

She whipped the all soundly

And sent the to bed

Read the nursery rhythm above and picture this woman, she is a mother, a sister, a daughter. If you think of her as a woman in her twenties or thirties in today’s world; then I ask you the question, why must she suffer the way she does. Is she liberated? Oh I get it. She doesn’t need a man. “I can do it all by my self”. So men have come and gone in her life. None of them have stayed. She is enjoying sexual liberation. A few children later and she is frustrated, poor and depressed. Where are the fathers?

Honey he never made a commitment to stay, it was a one night, one week, one month, one year stand. You had fun while it lasted and so did he. Did you think he would stay after, why should he? He made a comment to pay his lease, but no commitment to you. He made a commitment to pay his car note, but no commitment to you. He made a commitment to his job but no commitment to you.

Do you know why he made those commitments? Because all those people asked it of him to. They demanded it. They set their standards and did not settle for any less.

Sign here, sir and the car is yours. Fill out this contract and you can start work tomorrow. But with you, he just winked, or smile, or said something charming. He may have even bought you something nice. The bottom line, he didn’t make a commitment to stay until death do you part.

So how do you get a man that will stay? Here is another nursery rhythm that can help you out with the process. I used my name, but you can insert yours.

Gladys and Phil Sitting in a tree


First comes loves

then come marriage

then comes a baby in a baby carriage.

Get married! Take your time and find the right man. Learn about him. Observe him, get to know him. Than marry him. I do believe that men should take responsibility for their actions, but that is another topic. This whole article is to make a point. Get Married! Before you give your heart and your body to a man. You have to make a commitment to each other or he can walk out the door at anytime. There is a possibility of divorce, but again, that is another topic.