Taking Responsibility

This morning on the way to Church, my family and I were listening to the radio and the announcer was talking about young people killing each other for car rims. Apparently car rims are now new and improved and everybody wants them. There were so many disturbing things about this report. Most disturbing of all is the fact that kids are killing each other for material possessions.

As my family and I were having a discussion and listening to the radio, someone said something to the effect of “they make these rims and sell them to the community”. Somehow this was to explain all of the death a destruction that has resulted from these material things, these things that are not even needs. This explanation also suggested that someone had a malicious purpose for selling this product to this community. So the businessman is at fault for the killings. Not the individuals killing each other.

My friends business is business. If I make a product and a certain segment of the population buy it more than other populations, I am going to promote my product more to the population that will bring me profit. I don’t care if the population is Black or White. I want to make money. How on earth can you blame the businessman for kids killing each other? This is crazy.

People!!!!! We need to wake up and take responsibility for our communities and our children. I have heard civil right leaders and people over the air ways say over and over that they want change. The barrier to change is the system, they say. Ok I will give you some points on that, but how about the minor details of day-to-day living that we all have control over? Let me list some:

1 You have control over whether you wake up on time to get to work. It is in your control. You don’t have to wake up late and get a speeding ticket. If you do wake up late and get a speeding ticket that means you have to come in contact with law enforcement and once that happens suck it up, pay for your ticket and wake up early the next morning.

2 You have control over your children. They should be on a schedule. They should not be in street making themselves easy targets for the police who are “simply out to get the Black kids in jail”. Your children should go to school, come home, do their home work and have conversations with you. They have no business being in the streets coveting other people’s property to the point of committing murder.

3 You are in charge of your education. Go get financial aid like the rest of us poor people. Go to school and improve your employability. Then apply for the appropriate job. The job that matches your skills.
See the thing is all of us just want to talk about the bad situations. We want to rant and rave and get angry. In the end when we do not effect constructive change, we are our own jailers and our own prosecutor. We are our own worst enemy.
Do the hardest thing in the world and take a look in the mirror. Until you can get you act together this nation will just be spinning its wheels and equality will just be an illusion.

Money is part of the answer

Money is only 50% of the solution to the issues of violence and death occurring among teens nationwide.  I understand the countries need to send money and to send advisors ect. However, the problem is greater than that. Which is the main reason why it is taking so long to find a solution to the violence and destruction.

Any committee that comes up with a solution needs to understand that until they can help the parents and families in these communities, they are simply putting a band-aid on the wound.  The solution to the problem has to include a program for getting parents help and support.

There are already several programs out there that support parents. They include Big Brother programs and other after school programs. Those programs are there to help support the parents and provide positive mentorship for children. They where not created to shoulder the load of the family and fulfill all of  the needs of children. Those programs were created to supplement and reenforce the values and beliefs that families have  already instilled in their children.

Thus, if after school programs are being used to shoulder the burden of families and instill moral values in children, the program will eventually fail and only a few children will be successful.  The successful children will more than likely be the children who already have structure and boundaries at home. There are exceptions, where some children who have never had structure in they household become successful because of mentorship programs but they are the exception not the rule.

Parents need support in todays fast world. However, when you see communities that have violences, especially with teens, then there has been a breakdown in family and parental structure. The parents in that community need help.

Committees and experts can help parents and families through meeting them where they are. They can help parents understand what it means to be a parent through parenting classes. They can also teach parents how to show their children love and how to set appropriate boundaries for them. To do this experts need to evaluate the demographics in the community and create the appropriate programs.

Stay tunes for more….

He died so that I might live

Today is Good Friday, but when you think of Jesus suffering and dying, it doesn’t seem like a very good died.

The Crucifixion
So the soldiers took charge of Jesus. 17Carrying his own cross, he went out to the place of the Skull (which in Aramaic is called Golgotha). 18Here they crucified him, and with him two others—one on each side and Jesus in the middle.

19Pilate had a notice prepared and fastened to the cross. It read:|sc JESUS OF NAZARETH, THE KING OF THE JEWS. 20Many of the Jews read this sign, for the place where Jesus was crucified was near the city, and the sign was written in Aramaic, Latin and Greek. 21The chief priests of the Jews protested to Pilate, “Do not write ‘The King of the Jews,’ but that this man claimed to be king of the Jews.”

22Pilate answered, “What I have written, I have written.”

23When the soldiers crucified Jesus, they took his clothes, dividing them into four shares, one for each of them, with the undergarment remaining. This garment was seamless, woven in one piece from top to bottom.

24″Let’s not tear it,” they said to one another. “Let’s decide by lot who will get it.”
This happened that the scripture might be fulfilled which said,
“They divided my garments among them
and cast lots for my clothing.”[a] So this is what the soldiers did.

25Near the cross of Jesus stood his mother, his mother’s sister, Mary the wife of Clopas, and Mary Magdalene. 26When Jesus saw his mother there, and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to his mother, “Dear woman, here is your son,” 27and to the disciple, “Here is your mother.” From that time on, this disciple took her into his home.

The Death of Jesus

28Later, knowing that all was now completed, and so that the Scripture would be fulfilled, Jesus said, “I am thirsty.” 29A jar of wine vinegar was there, so they soaked a sponge in it, put the sponge on a stalk of the hyssop plant, and lifted it to Jesus’ lips. 30When he had received the drink, Jesus said, “It is finished.” With that, he bowed his head and gave up his spirit.

A Holy Temple: Say No to Obesity

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1Corinthians 6:19
Or don’t you know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit….

Ladies we need to get it together. Research shows that more women are dying of heart disease than breast cancer or cervical cancer. I have never thought of a woman having a heart attack. When I think about heart attacks, the imagine of a male comes to mind. We have to start taking care of ourselves not only for ourselves, but also for our families.

Prevention:
• Exercise
• Eating healthy
• Laugh a lot
• Visit friends and family
• Do not drink alcohol (this is a big one)

Here are some of the risk factors that increase with an increase in weight.
• Coronary heart disease
• Type 2 diabetes
• Cancers (endometrial, breast, and colon)
• Hypertension (high blood pressure)
• Dyslipidemia (for example, high total cholesterol or high levels of triglycerides)
• Stroke
• Liver and Gallbladder disease
• Sleep apnea and respiratory problems
• Osteoarthritis (a degeneration of cartilage and its underlying bone within a joint)
• Gynecological problems (abnormal menses, infertility)

All of the information I have gathered comes from the CDC.

(Stay tunes for easy ways to exercise)