Money is part of the answer

Money is only 50% of the solution to the issues of violence and death occurring among teens nationwide.  I understand the countries need to send money and to send advisors ect. However, the problem is greater than that. Which is the main reason why it is taking so long to find a solution to the violence and destruction.

Any committee that comes up with a solution needs to understand that until they can help the parents and families in these communities, they are simply putting a band-aid on the wound.  The solution to the problem has to include a program for getting parents help and support.

There are already several programs out there that support parents. They include Big Brother programs and other after school programs. Those programs are there to help support the parents and provide positive mentorship for children. They where not created to shoulder the load of the family and fulfill all of  the needs of children. Those programs were created to supplement and reenforce the values and beliefs that families have  already instilled in their children.

Thus, if after school programs are being used to shoulder the burden of families and instill moral values in children, the program will eventually fail and only a few children will be successful.  The successful children will more than likely be the children who already have structure and boundaries at home. There are exceptions, where some children who have never had structure in they household become successful because of mentorship programs but they are the exception not the rule.

Parents need support in todays fast world. However, when you see communities that have violences, especially with teens, then there has been a breakdown in family and parental structure. The parents in that community need help.

Committees and experts can help parents and families through meeting them where they are. They can help parents understand what it means to be a parent through parenting classes. They can also teach parents how to show their children love and how to set appropriate boundaries for them. To do this experts need to evaluate the demographics in the community and create the appropriate programs.

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A Challenge to churches in the Black Community

Hey there, today Tyler Perry released and e-mail that just broke my heart. It brought to mind the plight of so many children in this nation. I want to say before I start that I am in no way saying thees same problems do not exist in other communities, but I am currently focusing on the Black community.

Through out history the Church has been the foundation of the Black community. There are church on every corner in some communities. The Church has been a place of fellowship, union and the symbol of empowerment.

However, there is too much pain and too much dysfunction going on in some Black communities even though there are Churches located on the corner. It is time for Pastors and laymen to step up it up.  They need to provide counseling and classes to help this generation heal so that they do not continue the generational cycles of violence, abuse and poverty.

Preaching from the Pulpit is fine, but Pastors and laymen need to get into the communities and walk the streets and help counsel lost and dying souls. They need to meet people where they are instead of just singing and preaching and creating a false sense of security that only lasts until the sermon is over. If the people of the Church do not incooperate the Bible into their family life then the Church is not doing what it is supposed to.

Every Church in a Black neighbourhood needs to have AA, parenting classes, Addition counseling, self-esteem workshops etc. That is part of the ministry, showing people Gods love and mercy in a world filled with hardship and disappointment.

As you read this you maybe wondering, well what is she doing to help (start with the man in the mirror). I am in between schools (starting back in the Spring, you need a certificate to do anything legally), I have this blog and I am trying to get ideas for a fundraisers so I can start my ministry. I also volunteer at a pregnancy center.

So what are you doing to help?

Clinton demand end to sexual violence

GOMA, Congo – U.S. Secretary of State Hillary Rodham Clinton toured an African refugee camp Tuesday crowded with victims of violence and malnutrition, pledging $17 million in American aid to help stem the tide of rampant sexual abuse that has staggered war-ravaged eastern Congo.

-Associated Press

It is good to see the USA taking a stand against sexual violence in countries where the people have no voice and no way of defending themselves. In countries like the Congo, where war has ravaged families and caused people to loose all that they own, the individuals with power have the ability to play God and humiliate and torture people.

Thankyou  all the Aide workers who put their lives in danger to show poeple who have lost everything, that they still have the right to be human.

We do have the right to be human beings, the right to live in peace and compassion with one another. We have the right to our own personal space and the right to defend ourseleves when our space is violated. 

However, there are individuals out there who do not believe that all humans have these rights. They believe that they are superior to others, the world owes them something, and they have the right to violate other peoples individual spaces. 

Folks think about it, when was the last time you degraded somebody, humiliated them and too away their right to be human…. Just because you could.